I am learning a lot...
My new manager and I were waiting in the lobby discussing change, leadership, and resistance.
He held up one hand and asked me to do the same. His hand moved left and right, and I followed. As we moved our hands in the lobby left and right, he started to push forward, into my hand. I resisted. After a brief moment, we went left and right a few more times, and then he let his hand fall back towards his face, and I didn't push into the gap. He wisely spoke as he put down his hand, saying, to be successful, relationships should move together left and right, minimize pushing change (forward) into a person's own space where resistance is a common result, and lead in a way that that is not uncomfortable and awkward and allows others to move forward into the unknown.
I have thought about that moment many times... Maybe tolerating a push into my world is needed, and maybe being more comfortable to move forward into an uncomfortable moment is also what I should accept...
Dieter Wentzel, CPHR